Oct 25, 2023
Announcements:
Patron announcement:
UPDATE:
Just finished: The Stranger Upstairs by Lisa M. Matlin
I'M READING: beta read and client work, plus:
Catching the Big Fish by David Lynch
Indelible by Laurie Buchanan
Harness: A Systemic Approach: Guaranteed to Revolutionize Your Coaching by Tess Cope
Up Next: What's a Poor Girl to Do?: Prostitution in Mid-Nineteenth Century America by Elizabeth A. Topping
Soiled Doves: Prostitution in the the Early West by Anne Seagraves
Frog Music by Emma Donoghue
The Ocean at the End of the Lane by Neil Gaiman
Jo Nesbo's The Night House
S.A. Cosby's All the Sinners Bleed (Blacktop Wasteland)
The Singer's Gun Emily St John Mandel
Children of Ruin Adrian Tchaikovsky
How to make decisions:
Is there even a "problem" here? (What problem does this impulse suppposedly address?)
Identify the goal first.
Shut it off or put it in the queue.
Hierarchy of steps, assigning decisions.
Separate questions from ones I answer and ones I ask someone else.
Minimize trouble. Three columns: I know how to do this and I'm not going to pay for, don't have skill for this and I'm going to pay for it, I'm okay with this but could someone else do it better? (Am I going to hire, or learn, how am I going to handle this?)
Obstacles to making decisions: overwhelm, FOMO, paralysis analysis, not having enough info, tired, thinking time, biological needs, over-emphasizing the things we enjoy and am good at (as opposed to the other stuff), distraction, perfectionism.
Failure is not trying.
Having a clear objective. What is most important thing here? (Because we outgrow goals eventually.)